Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus was released 25 years ago and its author, John Gray, notes that it continues to touch the lives of people in over 150 countries.
“When I travel the world, the most frequent question I hear is ‘Does that book still apply to relationships today?’
The short answer: yes, essentially.
The long answer is more complex.
Men Are from Mars still holds timeless teachings that can be applied to every relationship in your life. But I realize the world has changed dramatically since I wrote it.
Our lives move faster. Our stress levels are higher. Communication has changed. We have more connections but fewer conversations. More women are in the workplace. More men are taking on greater responsibilities at home.
We know more about relationships but keep repeating the same mistakes. Divorce rates are high for first marriages, higher for second marriages and even higher for third marriages. At the same time, more and more people are choosing not to get married at all.
People want a soul mate relationship and not a role mate relationship. They want to be free to move beyond the traditional gender roles at home and at work to pursue their dreams and their passions. And they want a partner that will support them on their journey.
But gender freedom shouldn’t mean gender blindness. Men and women are still fundamentally different on a biological and hormonal level.
We must learn how to express our masculine and feminine qualities in ways that reduce our stress levels and make our relationships stronger. Both men and women require a new kind of emotional support that embraces greater authenticity, intimacy, and personal expression.
But men and women are different. We react to change in different ways, ways that are often misunderstood and misinterpreted by our partners.
Men are not shown the importance of affection, how to listen without interrupting, how to schedule time together, or how to plan dates to keep the romance alive.
Women are not shown how to bring out the best in men, how to encourage and appreciate, and how to ask for support without complaining.
If you are single and searching for your soul mate, this book will help you be a better partner to that person when you find them.
If you are married or in a relationship and you desire more intimacy, more passion and better communication with your partner, this book will help you create it.
The insights in this book will help every relationship in your life, beyond your most intimate relationships. The skills you learn will help the relationships with your family, the relationships at work and, most importantly, the relationship with yourself.
So, yes, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is still important and relevant today, but we need a new set of skills in today’s complex world.
This is why I had to write Beyond Mars and Venus.”
In Beyond Mars and Venus, John says that he teaches readers how to strengthen their bond and grow in love together for lasting happiness and a fulfilling relationship.
• She Needs to Be Heard and He Needs to Be Appreciated
• You Time, Me Time, We Time
• Women, Hormones, Happiness
• Testosterone Is from Mars
• Estrogen Is from Venus
• The Complaint-Free Relationship
• From Role Mate to Soul Mate
If you order the book from his website this week, John will send you his Secrets to Great Sex Audio Course for free. It gets a little descriptive, he says, but it’s full of helpful tips that many couples wish they could discuss. Listen together and let the discussion begin. He suggests that you don’t listen to it together while driving.
Sounds like a fascinating read.